If your anything like me, you will have spent some times in your life pondering the question, who are my friends?
The modern world has changed so much, and one of the key words which have been mounded to mean something new is the word friend. You know what I mean… I’m your friend, well yes we are connected on Facebook but does that make us friends??
We work together, does that make us friends? We know each other through our businesses, does that make us friends?
I am blessed with the most amazing network. Many many of whom I consider my friends. I also have a much smaller network of people who I know if I needed to call on them for any reason, they would be there for me to the absolute best of their ability often at a cost to themselves. I think for me that is the acid test.
Friendship for me is something that costs. It may cost your time, it may cost your energy and often it will cost your money as well.
It’s equally important to stop making assumptions about friendships. We all need good close friendships, and having a wide number of connections may not always mean that someone feels like they have a lot of friends. As I was reminded sometimes the most outwardly popular people are the ones who are struggling the most with connectivity and a sence of good close friends. We only have to think of Robin Williams, there was a man who to the outside world I am sure looked like he had many friends… We each have the opportunity to come alongside others and be a good friend. You already know that I think this will cost you, it may be inconvenient at times – but it will also pay you, maybe not financially but so often in ways you can never imagine.
To those who I am privileged to have in my life as friends, and you know who you are – thank you! Not just for the ones who come alongside me when I need it, but as much and maybe sometimes more to those of you who are willing to metaphorically strip down to your underwear and allow me to stand beside and support you in what your going through.
So who can you come alongside today, who can you reach out to – what can you do….. PLEASE – do something, however small and do it today!
Thank you… your friend, if not now, then soon, I hope!